Saturday, January 1, 2011

Apologies and Forgiveness 2011 style

This new year has me contemplating the deep thoughts.

First there is the apology. I had to apologize quite a bit during 2010. With good reason. I was rarely at my best. And I was feeling the weight of burdens that had accumulated over years.

One goal for my 2011 is to apologize less. What this means is doing less to wrong others. At the same time, this is me. Take it or leave it. I refuse to deny my humanity any longer. I make mistakes, but I am not evil. But I also have feelings, needs and concerns and they are valid and they are real. Deal with it.

Another goal is to actively forgive. One of my flaws is that I will let things fester rather than deal with them directly. Passive aggressive is an understatement. I'm not strong enough to carry these resentments for as long as I used to.

So there it is. Apologize less because I've wronged less. Actively forgive because I need to be free.

Please let me know how I'm doing if our paths cross.